Popular Nigerian media personality, Teju Babyface, has ignited heated debates across social media after boldly advising men not to confess to their wives if they ever cheat. His statement, captured in a widely shared video, has drawn a mix of criticism, support, and intense arguments online.
Teju’s advice on infidelity
In the viral clip, Teju addressed both men and women but emphasized his message more strongly to men. According to him, one of the greatest mistakes a man can make in marriage is to admit to his wife that he cheated. He stressed that silence, no matter how uncomfortable, is better than confessing to such an act.
He stated clearly: “If you cheat on your wife or your husband, but especially your wife, especially men, if you cheat on your wife, don’t tell her, don’t confess. If you cheat on your spouse, don’t tell them. Do not ever do it. It is one of the most catastrophic and damning things you can ever do in your life.”
His reasons for discouraging confession
Explaining further, Teju said cheating is wrong, but confessing does not make the situation better. Instead, it could completely wreck a marriage, damage trust beyond repair, and cause long-lasting pain for the spouse.
He argued that most people who confess are not being truthful out of genuine honesty but are instead driven by guilt. According to him, when individuals “confess,” they are often only trying to free themselves from the weight of guilt and shift the emotional burden onto their partner. He described this as manipulative rather than honest.
Teju went on to question the motive behind confessions, saying: “You think you are being clean, you think you are being honest, but no, you are not being honest, you are being manipulative. You are simply sharing your guilt with your spouse, and in the end, nothing good comes out of it.”
Reactions and controversy
His advice has generated a storm of reactions online, with many people disagreeing strongly. Some argued that honesty and transparency are the foundations of marriage and that hiding such secrets can cause even more damage if eventually discovered. Others, however, agreed with Teju, insisting that some truths are better left unsaid to protect relationships from collapse.
Critics of Teju’s advice accused him of promoting dishonesty, while supporters praised him for being realistic and practical about human behavior and marital dynamics. The debate has continued to trend, with thousands of comments flooding X, Instagram, and TikTok.
Teju’s conclusion on the matter
In his final words, Teju maintained that confessions bring no real benefit to the cheated spouse. On the contrary, he argued that revealing infidelity only destroys peace in the marriage, creates emotional wounds, and could even end the relationship entirely.
According to him, the so-called “benefit” of confession lies only in easing the guilt of the person who cheated, while the faithful partner gains nothing but hurt. His advice, therefore, is simple: “Don’t confess. Carry your guilt silently and do better.”
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Do not tell your spouse when you che@t on them — Media personality Teju Babyface warns
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