A Nigerian single mother has ignited intense reactions online after pouring out her frustrations about the challenges of single parenting and the burden of raising children without a responsible partner. Her candid post, which has since gone viral, highlights the struggles many women face when left to shoulder financial and emotional responsibilities alone.
In her post, the woman revealed that she had just paid her children’s school fees entirely on her own, without any contribution from the fathers of her kids. Overwhelmed with emotions, she vented her anger at men who abandon women to carry the full weight of parenting. She wrote: “I just single-handedly paid my children’s school fees again. All I can say is may God punish all men who made us single mothers and left the responsibilities for us to handle alone. God go punish men. E no go better for una.”
Her statement struck a chord with many, drawing attention to the struggles of countless single mothers in Nigeria and beyond. Within hours, her post went viral, sparking heated debates across X (formerly Twitter), Instagram, and Facebook. While some users expressed sympathy for her plight, others accused her of being bitter, irresponsible, or making poor choices in her past relationships.[/p]
Sympathy and Support from Some Netizens
Many users empathised with her, describing her pain as valid and relatable. Several single mothers joined the conversation, sharing their own experiences of struggling to pay school fees, rent, and other bills without help from their children’s fathers. One user wrote: “This pain is real. Men need to understand that abandoning their children is wickedness of the highest order. God bless you for taking care of your kids despite the challenges.”
Another commented: “It’s not easy. People should stop blaming women all the time. Some men hide their true character until responsibilities come, then they disappear.”[/p]
Criticism and Accusations of Hypocrisy
However, not everyone agreed with her emotional outburst. Some critics argued that she was unfairly generalising men and playing the victim card. One user, dexxybaba, wrote: “You didn’t know he was irresponsible when you decided to pair with him… the signs are always obvious.” He advised women to be more careful in choosing partners rather than blaming men afterwards.
Another critic, alison_ibra, reacted sharply: “Aren’t they your children too? Why so bitter about taking care of your own kids?” Others reminded her of past interviews where she allegedly boasted about her lifestyle choices, including having kids with different men. A user, efe_edwards, commented: “Isn’t this the same lady who said she has kids with two different men and plans to have more with others? She made poor choices and now blames men.”
Debate on Single Motherhood and Accountability
The viral post has reignited a larger conversation about single parenting, accountability, and gender roles in Nigeria. Some argued that society unfairly shames women while excusing men who neglect their responsibilities. Others, however, insisted that women must be more discerning in their relationships to avoid falling victim to irresponsible partners.
The debate has also highlighted how issues like financial responsibility, parental involvement, and emotional support remain central in modern relationships. While her message was laced with anger, many believe it reflects the reality of countless single mothers navigating a system where men often walk away without consequences.[/p]
The heated exchange continues to spread across social media, with thousands of comments and reposts fueling both empathy and backlash. For some, her story is a call to hold absentee fathers accountable; for others, it is a cautionary tale about relationship choices.
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"I just single-handedly paid my children's school fees"
"All I can say is may God punish all the men who made us single mothers and leave the responsibilities for us alone to handle"
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— Rita (@RitableP) October 3, 2025